“If it weren’t for the sex, I would’ve left him a long time ago,” she says.
“Wait a minute. So you mean to tell me that because he sexes you well that is the only reason you put up with his mess?”
“I know, I know. But it’s the truth. I’m addicted.”
Stop the press!!! What is wrong with people today? I had a conversation with a friend and I couldn’t believe the things that were coming out of her mouth. The guy she’s with, they’ve been together for a little over a year. Mind you, she has been on his case about getting a job or finding something productive to do with his life, but of course, he always have one excuse after the other. He is three yearsher senior and a father or three, none of which are hers, but they reside in her apartment and he relies on her for everything.
She have to provide food, clothes, shelter and get this…he drives around all day in her car that she pays the note and insurance on, while she’s busy at work each day. She often complains about his lack of contribution, but yet she continues to put up with the madness. May I pause for a minute to say that if you are not willing to do anything to change the situation, then quit complaining. People will only do what you allow them to. As much as she is my girl, I told her to kick his butt to the curb, but she’s afraid of missing out on what she refers to as “the bomb sex!” Gimme a break.
I ask this question, is sex really that important, where you will allow everything else to go unnoticed and settle for less? That’s one of the reasons why the world is so corrupt. That is why so many infidelities occur. A woman may be with a man who has all the other great qualities, but because he lacks “good sex” she will step out and sleep with another man who shouldn’t be worth her time.
It’s time to get back to our senses. Sex isn’t everything but is it something. Don’t settle or deal with things that you shouldn’t have to, all because of a minute of pleasure. When that moment is over, then what? We are still stuck to face the real matter at hand.
As for my friend, bills have to be paid and because she is the one carrying the relationship, she at times has to borrow here and borrow there to keep her lights on and gas in her car. So, what is Mr. Man doing? He is taking advantage and leeching. It’s obvious that sex is providing for her. Let’s learn to get our heads out of our hormones and be realistic.
DON’T LET SEX HAVE CONTROL…YOU SHOULD BE THE ONE TO CONTROL SEX.
Author of Love Finally
By: Nakiesia Reid